Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Good Night... to Goodbye

My younger sister, Amy moved away to Nebraska ten years ago after getting married to Eric. We had never been that far apart before, so it took some getting used to. Even though we’re not twins, we’ve been asked the question many times, which we find ridiculous, because we just don’t see it. We used to stand in front of the mirror, look each other over, and laugh, “I just don’t see it.” When strangers ask us if we’re twins, we answer them with, “No, we’re not twins, but we were born on the same day." That always gets a few odd looks!

We were both born on April 2nd – just two years apart – which means we’re both Aries – which means we both like to talk a lot. One of the first times she called me from Nebraska, we talked for nearly two hours. I remember, because I heard her husband’s voice in the background and then my sister laughing.

“Did you hear what he said?”

“No. What?”

“He asked what we could possibly talk about for two whole hours.”

Now I was laughing right along with her. Little did he know, two hours for my sister and I was peanuts. Ten years ago, when we paid per minute for a long distance call, we justified that paying 8-10 bucks for our conversation was better than any movie playing at the theatre. Now that we have the phone plans with unlimited minutes, all bets are off and the only way to end our conversations is for the batteries to die in one or both of our phones. Even the Energizer Bunny is no match for me and my sister. We’re so incapable of ending our conversations that sometimes when one of our phone dies and we get disconnected, we both just walk away, rationalizing that the phone did for us, what we couldn’t do for ourselves.

We both agree that this problem stems from our childhood, when we slept in the same double bed every night. Our mother would yell for us to “GO TO SLEEP!” and we would try, but there was always something more to be said. Eventually, as we grew tired, one of us would say, “Okay, Good night.”

“Good Night.”

“OH! Just one more thing……….”

Now, we only live three hours away from each other – not that it matters – and we admit that when we see each other’s name come up on the caller I.D., we hesitate to pick it up because we know that we cannot get on and off the phone in less than an hour and sometimes we just don’t have the time. Still, more times than not, we pick it up anyway. We start many conversations with, “Ok. I don’t have much time. I just have one quick question…..”


The other night, after an hour on the phone with each other, the first “good bye” almost took, but then one subject led to another and the conversation continued. Once again, I heard Eric’s voice in the background, followed by my sister’s laughter.

“What did he say?”

He asked, “When you say “Good Bye” does that just mark the end of the first hour?”

We laughed together. Poor Eric – what he has to put up with. In our defense, our conversations are totally productive. We pick each other up when we’re down, we brainstorm about how to make our lives richer and more meaningful and more fun. We talk about ideas and dreams and aspirations. We’re both dreamers, so there’s a lot of talk and very little follow through, but we got grand ideas and some day, we’re gonna rule the world – just you wait and see. At the very least, we’re gonna be on Oprah!

Love Ya Sis!

Call ya tomorrow…….


Amy said...

I so want this kind of relationship for Elena and Claire. I have ALWAYS wanted someone to feel this close to and I pray hard almost daily that they come to this some day. Not today! Today, it's fighting over who is going to sit closest to the TV to watch Barney!!!

Amy said...

I do the exact same thing with my mom! When Jason hears us on the phone he just rolls his eyes and says goodnight. He knows he's lost me.

Rita's Rants n Raves said...

What a beautiful post. That is awesome to have the same birthday, that doesn't happen to often. I have grade school friends that were born the same day but are a year apart, and I have twin girls (just turned 6) and I just love to see how close they are. They watch out for each other, sure they argue and fight, but for the most part they are super close. We still have them in toddler beds and 90% of the time I find them sleeping in the same bed with their arms around each other. I hope that they are just as close and have an awesome relationship as you do with your sister.

Sheri said...

Amy, on the same nights that we talked for hours, we were also freaking out about the other crossing the imaginary middle line on the bed that separated us from our sides of the bed. Fighting and talking go hand in hand don't they? I'm sure they'll be close, which is great because sisters are a great backup plan when the friends fall through!

Amy H, I'm sure my brother-in-law is rolling his eyes like your husband does - such a lost cause.

Hello Rita!

Jen said...

Wow...this post had me ACTUALLY laughing out loud (and that's quite a feat). The loudest giggle came when Eric asked if "goodbye" just markes the end of the first hour! Ha Ha..that's hilarious..but only because I've BEEN THERE! ha ha
How WONDERFUL that you and your sis have such a great relationship!
That is what LIFE is all about!!

Patty said...

Great post! I know exactly what you are talking about! My sister, Bevie is a "double decker" friend and I often wonder what would have become of me if it weren't for our friendship. It's so wonderful to know someone so well that you don't even have to say much, because they already know how you feel and what you'll be thinking in different situations.

Bob does the same eye roll Amy's Jason does when her mom calls, or he'll answer the phone for me and try to tell her I'm unavailable. He knows he won't get away with it, but he still tries.